Two Hearts Share One Beat 

-Kristen Fernandez

Welcome back to yet another edition of “Blog Worthy?”  In today’s article I shall be discussing something, or rather someone, I had mentioned in a previous article, as well as any advice I can give on love.  However, in order for this article to make sense, it’s best we start from the beginning.

As you may or may not know, at the beginning of my sophomore year I had been dealing with a very personal family problem. Nonetheless, I had to deal with the many assignments that came my way during this time. One day in particular stuck out to me,  not because of the crazy amounts of work, but because of someone who would eventually change my whole life for the better. 

One day before my English period had started, I walked straight into the classroom without realizing that we would be doing an assignment because I was so tired. I had sat at my normal table but it didn’t occur to me that I would be working with the people who had decided to sit there. They weren’t the normal people I sat with but at the time it made no difference to me. 

Luckily, those people weren’t complete strangers to me. One of them I didn’t know whatsoever, but the other I had spoken to on occasion several times. For the purpose of this article we shall be calling him Eric. Eric was sitting in my seat so I decided the only choice I had was to sit across from him. He and I had spoken once or twice, but the most I had ever said to him was “Hi. What’s your name?” 

Long story short, he and I had ended up talking all throughout the class period about everything except the project. Eric was easily one of the sweetest people I had ever met. He was so easy to talk to and I really felt like we could be good friends, maybe even more. By the end of class he and I were laughing as if we had been friends for longer than just one class period. I had found that we had another class together earlier in the day and he was also in Japanese. So I figured, what better way to get to know him better than to ask for his cell phone number, and to my surprise, I did just that. I was never the type of person to be so bold in asking for a guy’s number so it shocked me quite a bit. Because we both had Japanese, I asked him if it would be alright if I had his number so I could text him with any questions I had on the homework that was assigned that night. However, he didn’t know that I truly didn’t need help and it was just an excuse. 

Eventually, I had texted him and that escalated to us constantly talking to each other. In a matter of days I knew that I liked Eric, and I was almost certain that he liked me. He did end up asking me out and we have been dating since then. Our anniversary is on September 22nd, and we have been together for a little over two and a half years. 

Now, as you may remember, my first article was about love, and I, in a sense, analyzed love and Valentine’s Day. Before Eric, I had never been in a serious relationship and I really feel as though I had no true grasp on the concept of love, hence the aforementioned analysis. I’m no expert, but after two and a half years with someone I absolutely adore, I feel as though I’m capable of giving advice. 

One of the most common questions I get asked is, “Am I taking things too fast or too slow with my significant other?”

The only thing I can say to that is, I don’t know. Everyone’s relationships are different. If you and your partner believe that you’re ready for something, then there is no need to compare your relationship to someone else’s. If someone isn’t ready for something, then don’t push them. Things come naturally when you’re truly in love so there is no need to force something because it may not be the right time nor the right moment. 

Another question I get asked a lot is, “How do I know if my partner is the one for me? How will I know if we’ll make a good couple?” 

I have one answer for you: you won’t know until you try. Cliché isn’t it? Quite like trying a new food, you won’t know how you feel until you give that person a shot. Now, I’m not saying to go around from person to person just to “try” them out. If your heart feels even the slightest tug, I truly suggest giving that person a chance. Before Eric and I got together, it seemed like we had almost nothing in common except our classes, but now he and I still are able to find things that we both absolutely love. 

I have also been asked about college. As you may know, I am a senior in high school, and Eric is too. People often ask me, “What are you and Eric going to do about college? Are you both staying close to home?” 

Before, this question used to rip me apart. Sometimes it still does as there are many times where I’ve wondered about where we’ll end up in the future. Eric plans on staying close to home and I do too, however there was once a time where I was set on attending college all the way across the country. While college is the reason for Eric and I questioning our relationship, there are plenty of couples that have had to do a long distance relationship with their partner because of work or perhaps because they needed to move with their family. I have talked to so many people about these types of relationships because they’re definitely not for everyone. The best advice I can give is that you sit down and talk with your significant other. Figure out what both of you want and go from there. Sometimes, one person may not want to do long distance, other times, you may both want to persevere through this hardship, but you won’t know unless you ask. Truly listen to one another and try to find a way where both of you will be happy in the long run. 

The last question I’ve been asked is, “Do you get jealous?”

I would be lying if I said no. Eric and I have had quite the conversation whenever jealousy is brought up. Both of us have had our fair share of being jealous. For me it’s often being jealous of the time Eric spends with his friends, and there have been times where Eric has been jealous of people I’m around. But the number one thing I can say is that if there is jealousy in your relationship, you have to talk to your partner about it. Eric and I have fought because one of us has been jealous many, many times. However, because we had talked through our feelings, we had ended up an even stronger couple than before. I also advise that you trust your partner. Jealousy and suspicion in combination often lead to ugly things, so truly trust your partner and you will go far. 

If it wasn’t clear, one of the main components in a relationship is conversation. Talking things out with the one you love is something that I cannot stress enough. It is so important to be able to talk comfortably with one another, whether that be about something silly and lighthearted, or something more serious. 

There are so many more questions that I have been asked, but for the sake of the article, this is where I will be stopping. If you have any more questions, feel free to send them in and I’d be happy to answer them in the next article. However, keep in mind that I am no Cupid and most of my responses will be based on my own relationship. Everyone’s relationships are different, but I’d still love to try and answer any questions that you may have about love. 

That’s all for this week’s edition of “Blog Worthy?” Come back next week to see what I’ll be talking about next! 

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